#RelationshipRewind: Me, Myself & I

Relationship Rewind: Me, Myself & I

I delivered a lively, interactive workshop at Princeton University on the issue of Understanding Conflict. It was a great session and the participation was amazing!

As is my norm after any session, I reflect on the message: how it was received, what was said, what I would change to make it even better. As I thought about today’s session, I realized that the one relationship session I really need to do more of is about the relationship that we have with ourselves – the relationship with me, myself and I! When we think about relationships, we tend to think of relationships with others. The relationship with our self is not the first relationship that comes to mind. many of us may not even realize that we have, or need to have, a good relationship with ourselves but we truly, honestly need to develop, nurture and have that relationship.

How you feel about yourself; how you think of yourself; how you feel about the things you have accomplished or the things you have not accomplished truly do play a major role in how others see you.  The words that you use to describe yourself to yourself have an impact on the words that you use when talking to those who do not know you and you are explaining who you are, what you do and why you do it! When you use positive, powerful words to describe you to yourself, you will use positive, powerful words to describe your actions to others. Think about it.

Rewind the relationship you have had with yourself. If you say that you don’t have one, or that you have never thought of it – that’s a sign! Why? You want people to be friends with you – when you’re not friends with you? You want other people to like you when you don’t like yourself? You want others to give you a chance when you don’t give yourself a chance? Why do you want someone else to do and be to you what you are not doing and being yourself? Rewind. Is that reasonable? Is that fair? Is that OK?

Think about this: before you can have the great relationship with anyone else, you must first – at some level – have a great relationship with yourself. This is not about having the perfect relationship – it’s not about perfection! This is about being to yourself what you hope, wish, want others to be to you. When you are able to look in the mirror and be happy with what you see regarding who you are – then you know that you are in the best space for someone else to be interested in you!

If you have never had a talk with yourself, try it today. Start…talking…to…you.

If you have never asked yourself some questions and then found the answers to those questions – make your list of questions today and ask yourself one question each day until you are comfortable asking more questions.

The most important relationship any of us can have is the relationship we have with ourselves. It’s time to stop neglecting you. It’s time to give yourself your attention. Rewind the relationship you have with yourself and change the inner dialogue. Get ready to be amazed at the results!

I am,

Dian